My husband wrote a blog for me yesterday that I am very excited to share. <3
I recently had the opportunity to take two weeks off for vacation. I was able to do many things that I wanted to do and other things I haven’t had time to do. We went to visit some loved ones and had a great time. But during this time I noticed many things. I also had many different realizations.
This is how life should be.
My wife had two snow days and we had stocked up on groceries the day
before the storm and severe cold hit.
When I woke up in the morning I didn’t have to rush, there was no
thought in my mind other than thanking God for another day and going downstairs
to make some breakfast for me and my girls.
Those two days were great; I rank them very high amongst my fondest
memories in my short time as being a husband and father.
Through all of this I got to thinking about my wife. Well wives in general. The good ones. The QUEENS.
Now if you don’t have such a status I am not speaking about you. Don’t kid yourself, as you continue to read
you will know who it will apply to if you have any question. But anyway during my time home I did a lot of
the cleaning, most of the cooking, got Kolby ready, took and picked her up from school, etc. I didn’t just want my vacation to be a break
for me, but for Kathy as well.
Now of course I pitch in, I do dishes, mop the floor, clean
the tub, lawn work, snow shoveling etc on a normal basis. But I got a taste of what a woman does on a
daily basis. Let’s just say that I have
a greater appreciation and admiration for a one Katherine Ashley Coleman. Now to her and to other Queens reading this,
your daily activities are just chalked up to “doing what I gotta do.”
My wife is 6 month pregnant and does everything I just spoke
of, and she does it ALL the time without fail or complaint. She is supportive, spiritual, and ambitious
and the most beautiful woman I’ve ever laid eyes upon. She pushes me, but what stood out to me the
most was the WHY? Why does she push me
so hard? How does she know when to stop
and when to subtly start back up again.
I fall victim to catching an attitude when she says, “are you going to
write?” or “have you written anything today?” or “did you call this?” or “or
did you call about that?” She can be
pushy. But why is she that way? We live comfortably; we have a comfortable
home, two jobs, two cars, food on the table happy daughter and another daughter
on the way. We by no means have a lot of
money but we have been blessed to pay for everything we need and have a lil change
left for some things we want. But that
isn’t enough for her. It isn’t enough
for me either but there is a difference in the essence of the ambition.
THE ESSENCE OF AMBITION.
What does a man with the smallest ambition and one with monumental ambition
have in common? We feel like we can do
it on our own. We also know it takes
time and especially when we’re young we feel like we have time to make things
happen. We want bigger things for our
families but we also have jobs we go to.
We have to make money for that family.
We also have responsibilities when we get home too. We’re tired, the game is on, new Madden/2k,
gotta go to the gym, doing something with our cars etc. Now I’m not saying we don’t get tired, or
that working out isn’t important. I feel
it’s good to get the game in every now and then and I’m an avid sports
fan. But at the end of the day what does
that do to help us move towards our goals of being financially stable/free? Does it help us open that business, finish
that book, finish school, get our CDL or whatever it is we want to accomplish.
A good woman will recognize she has a good man and will
support him through it all. They also
have a better understanding of the team aspect of a family. She will push you to be the best you can
be. Bottom line, THEY WANT US
HAPPY. Their ambition is often
intertwined with ours, but if we don’t actively pursue progression that twine
can unwind. Everyone and everything has
a breaking point. We must listen to our women.
They want what we have to offer.
A WOMAN IS BUILT TO RECEIVE FROM A MAN.
Look at the act of sex. Women
receive what they need from a man in order to create LIFE. We work together and together we can all have
that better life and accomplish those goals and dreams. Pride gets in the way of us listening to our
women. WOMEN HAVE A MUCH HARDER TIME
SETTLING FOR MEDOCRITY! If you have one
of these women in your life, thank them.
Then NOTICE what they do on a daily basis. Even the most thoughtful man can lose sight
of this from time to time. These women
go hard for us. They want to see us shine;
we should want that type of woman in our life.
We wanna make our momma proud and do right by them. It should be the same with our mates.
*I in no way feel I know everything, and I’m aware people
are different and some things don’t apply for everyone. This is based on my feelings, what I’ve seen
in my relationship and others. It’s what
I live, I’m surrounded by Queens.
