A QUEEN'S AMBITION

My husband wrote a blog for me yesterday that I am very excited to share. <3

I recently had the opportunity to take two weeks off for vacation.  I was able to do many things that I wanted to do and other things I haven’t had time to do.  We went to visit some loved ones and had a great time.  But during this time I noticed many things.  I also had many different realizations. 

This is how life should be.  My wife had two snow days and we had stocked up on groceries the day before the storm and severe cold hit.  When I woke up in the morning I didn’t have to rush, there was no thought in my mind other than thanking God for another day and going downstairs to make some breakfast for me and my girls.  Those two days were great; I rank them very high amongst my fondest memories in my short time as being a husband and father. 

Through all of this I got to thinking about my wife.  Well wives in general.  The good ones.  The QUEENS.  Now if you don’t have such a status I am not speaking about you.  Don’t kid yourself, as you continue to read you will know who it will apply to if you have any question.  But anyway during my time home I did a lot of the cleaning, most of the cooking, got Kolby ready, took and picked her up from school, etc.  I didn’t just want my vacation to be a break for me, but for Kathy as well.

Now of course I pitch in, I do dishes, mop the floor, clean the tub, lawn work, snow shoveling etc on a normal basis.  But I got a taste of what a woman does on a daily basis.  Let’s just say that I have a greater appreciation and admiration for a one Katherine Ashley Coleman.  Now to her and to other Queens reading this, your daily activities are just chalked up to “doing what I gotta do.” 

My wife is 6 month pregnant and does everything I just spoke of, and she does it ALL the time without fail or complaint.  She is supportive, spiritual, and ambitious and the most beautiful woman I’ve ever laid eyes upon.  She pushes me, but what stood out to me the most was the WHY?  Why does she push me so hard?  How does she know when to stop and when to subtly start back up again.  I fall victim to catching an attitude when she says, “are you going to write?” or “have you written anything today?” or “did you call this?” or “or did you call about that?”  She can be pushy.  But why is she that way?  We live comfortably; we have a comfortable home, two jobs, two cars, food on the table happy daughter and another daughter on the way.  We by no means have a lot of money but we have been blessed to pay for everything we need and have a lil change left for some things we want.  But that isn’t enough for her.  It isn’t enough for me either but there is a difference in the essence of the ambition. 

THE ESSENCE OF AMBITION.  What does a man with the smallest ambition and one with monumental ambition have in common?  We feel like we can do it on our own.  We also know it takes time and especially when we’re young we feel like we have time to make things happen.  We want bigger things for our families but we also have jobs we go to.  We have to make money for that family.  We also have responsibilities when we get home too.  We’re tired, the game is on, new Madden/2k, gotta go to the gym, doing something with our cars etc.  Now I’m not saying we don’t get tired, or that working out isn’t important.  I feel it’s good to get the game in every now and then and I’m an avid sports fan.  But at the end of the day what does that do to help us move towards our goals of being financially stable/free?  Does it help us open that business, finish that book, finish school, get our CDL or whatever it is we want to accomplish.

A good woman will recognize she has a good man and will support him through it all.  They also have a better understanding of the team aspect of a family.  She will push you to be the best you can be.  Bottom line, THEY WANT US HAPPY.  Their ambition is often intertwined with ours, but if we don’t actively pursue progression that twine can unwind.  Everyone and everything has a breaking point. We must listen to our women.  They want what we have to offer.  A WOMAN IS BUILT TO RECEIVE FROM A MAN.  Look at the act of sex.  Women receive what they need from a man in order to create LIFE.  We work together and together we can all have that better life and accomplish those goals and dreams.  Pride gets in the way of us listening to our women.  WOMEN HAVE A MUCH HARDER TIME SETTLING FOR MEDOCRITY!  If you have one of these women in your life, thank them.  Then NOTICE what they do on a daily basis.  Even the most thoughtful man can lose sight of this from time to time.  These women go hard for us.  They want to see us shine; we should want that type of woman in our life.  We wanna make our momma proud and do right by them.  It should be the same with our mates. 

*I in no way feel I know everything, and I’m aware people are different and some things don’t apply for everyone.  This is based on my feelings, what I’ve seen in my relationship and others.  It’s what I live, I’m surrounded by Queens.