Emotional dumping

This week I would like to introduce a friend of mine. My goal is to get a variety of different people to share their perspective.

I'm Shavonne (vonnelove) Lover of God, Music, and good jokes. I love given my view on things... Hope you like.

Ever been in an Emotional dumping situation?

Emotional dumping is allowing someone to consistently vent to you about a particular situation/circumstance/problem repeatedly with no plan or action to change.

Emotional dumping never starts out as that. It comes off as venting about a situation or problem. And that's fine as long as it doesn't continue...

For example, If a friend comes to me about a situation and I listen to her vent about how, lets say, her boyfriend doesn't treat her right... she vents, I give advice (if asked) , and we move forward with the day... Then a couple days later I hear the same thing happened, just a different day, and again the next week... And again the next week... After so much time I have to realize that this is her life style and her venting isn't in search for a solution, it's purely emotional dumping....

She's simply staying in that situation and when she's fed up she comes to vent (emotional dump) only to be able to clear her mental to endure more emotional turmoil.

I can't let that happen... That's way too much pressure.

Can my friends vent to me more than once or twice about the same situation? Of course! But there has to be some type of personal progress within the situation and within a reasonable time.

Do you have to take my advice? No, but have a plan or a solution for a situation that keeps happening to you that you clearly don't like.

Most people have Emotionally Dumped... Mostly because they don't know what to do, but eventually figure it out. ..
Then there are those who live in that place because fear paralyzes their decision making skills... It's just easier to complain then to make a desicion.

Not making a decision is making a decision (by the way...lol) but its more comfortable to stay there then actually rejecting fear and moving forward. But that's a convo for another day... Lol.

Im out. Choose love.

-VonneLove

I just want to add emotional dumping puts your friend in an awkward situation. You could have emotinally dumped and then there's a get together and you have to be all in the person who was dumped about face. It can get a bit awkward. I have gotten better with this, now it doesn't phase me. But there was a time that I couldn't be neutral and  I harbored ill feelings to the person talked about. I think for me it has just been about growth. Now you don't know by my actions, that I know. Make sense? Personally there are somethings that don't need to be shared with other people, even your closests friends. Like I said before if we sought out God first, there would be a whole lot more situations figured out. That's the biggest problem....seek God in all things. Emotional dump on God, cause he can lift that burden from you completely and he can give you peace. Nicely written Shavonne.

Do you have friends like this?