As I have gotten older my circle has gotten a whole lot smaller, I am more than ok with that.
When it comes to seeking relationships advice I am very cautious about who I seek advice from. Ladies you cannot, I repeat cannot always go to your girlfriends for advice. I find that many women let their friends dictate their relationships. What you don't realize is that some of them will try to sabotage your relationship. You can be happy, but if they're miserable and bitter, the advice they give you isn't always coming from a your best interest place.
Sometimes your girlfriends are overcome with that green monster of jeaslousy. Other friends are getting out of relationships and they're not in a happy place anymore and they will try to fill your head with all kinds of nonsense. That's why you have to be cautious of peopls toxcidity levels cause some of those toxcins can enter your mind and start to poison it. All it takes is a drop of doubt and that can set off a chain reaction.
Some of you will read this and say no not real. For some people this isn't their reality, but for others it is. My husband and I will be celebrating our 2nd Anniversary in October. I'm happy, some people will say well you've only been married so many years, wait until after so many years. Instead of being encouraging, and I know others believe it's a show, why I would want to waste my time putting on a show is beyond me. Instead of offering encouraging advice, people are just waiting for you to fail. Yes, even some some of your so called close friends/family. I had a couple of friends who were jealous and didn't vocalize it to my face, there were other friends who said things that they don't think I know, but the word travels. This is also a reason I do not seek advice from some of my peoples anymore.
We should be as selective as we are picking shoes, that's how we should go about seeking advice, BE SELECTIVE, VERY SELECTIVE. Seek God's counsel first, before any man. I think a natural instinct when something happens to us to go straight to our close friends and family. God will never steer you wrong, man will. God has no alterior motives, he just wants to best for us in this life, asking God for guidance is key. Sometimes that's all we need to do, but there are other times where God will direct you to the right person to talk to, when he answers you just make sure you OBEY. Cause he doesn't always send you to the person you might have thought he would send you to.
As far as seeking advice from people, try to seek advice to people who can and will give you an unbiased opinion. You can seek out other couples who are in a similiar position. Seek out couples who have been married longer than you have. Just be wise about who are going to for advice. Some bad advice can have you messing up a really great thing. Everyones relationships is different, so the same advice that worked for me and my husband, may not work for another couple. This isn't just for relationships advice, this is for all advice. Just remember everyone doesn't always have YOUR best interest at heart. God always has your best interest in mind, ALWAYS.
We have to make sure he is INVOLVED in everything we do. (This is a reminder for me as well.) I promise you if you open your heart he will never lead you astray.
Has anyone ever experienced bad advice? What do you do when you need advice, who do you go to?
When you receive the advice, what is your next move?
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