Well I have the pleasure of having a guest writer this week. I was on Facebook scrolling down when I saw a long post that my cousin had written. I read it and immediately knew he had to write the next blog. I was overjoyed to find out that he writes and that he's in school for the very thing that I'm going to pursue in the near future (Marriage and Family Counseling). Larry Lowe II is 35 and has been married to Natalie Lowe for 14 yaers. They have 3 handsome boys. These are his latest ramblings.....some wise words on unforgivenss.
Unforgivness is deadly to a marriage. I call it a silent killer because most of the time the spouse who is unforgiving; doesnt let their spouse know they are holding something against them. Unforgiveness is like a cancer of the heart. It starts out as a small hurt that grows with more hurt until it forms a lump. This lump looks like an arguementation that started out small but blows up to something major, because of something that happened in the past! If this lump of unforgiveness goes unchecked, it will grow until your heart is turned into stone. When a heart of flesh is turned into stone the only person who can fix it is God. What most of us dont realize, is that when we harden our hearts against our spouse; we are doing so against God. Realize that when we hold on to past hurts, we are not prepared to recieve and hold on to the blessings of a good marriage. The pain that unforgivness causes is not worth it! Unforgivness CAN and WILL destroy your marriage. Pray and ask God to turn you or your spouses heart of stone into flesh. Talk to your spouse about what he or she has done to hurt you, and then forgive them. You always hear "I can forgive but I cant forget". I believe this is a copout. That saying is used as an excuse to bring up the past hurts at a later time. It is true that you wont forget. What you can do is chose not to dwell on the past hurts and not to use them againat your spouse EVER again. Forgiving them is more for your benefit than theirs. It frees you to love unconditionally. Your marriage can not and will not survive continued unforgiveness. If you need help.....GO GET IT. Put your pride to the side and realize that we all need help sometimes. Think about this, whether you are a Christian or not the following principles of love can nurture, restore and maintain your marriage.
Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps NO RECORD of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It ALWAYS protects, always trust, always hopes, always preserves. 1Corinthians 14:5.... Yall forgive me for goin on too long!
--Never Let Go
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