Let’s face it ladies, we’ve all seen those movies that tell
you to write down a list of everything you want in a man. I think some of the
most recent movies that come to mind are Deliver Us From Eva and Something New (one of my personal favorites).
How can I put this nicely? I’ve seen too many women pass up
great men because of their list. It’s wonderful to know what you want in man.
It’s definitely more than ok to have standards; you’ve got to have some right?
I’m not asking you to abandon your standards, stop being afraid to step outside
your comfort zone. Make sure when you are making this humongous list that you
have something to offer in return. I feel like when you have a list you limit
yourself and you miss out on opportunities not only for your potential mate,
but you just miss out on meeting great people.
Why limit yourself? By strictly sticking to this list you
are putting yourself in a box; if this man doesn’t meet all the requirements,
he’s kicked to the curb before he’s even given a real chance. Women don’t give
God a chance to work in their lives, because we want the control. That’s what
having the list is about it’s about controlling what you want. Let me just tell
you, there are few things that we control in life, if we just gave it to God
life would be so much sweeter. Does God not know the desires of your heart
better than you? Does he not know what kind of man is good for you, what kind
of man would compliment you?
My husband and I rarely play matchmaker, been there done
that, it usually doesn’t work out. (I know it has for some, but not for me : ()
Sometimes we see what would be great matches in our friends but because the guy
is too short, or he has kids, or even cause he’s not what she wants physically
in a guy, we don’t even bother. There are all sorts of excuses we hear, we see
the chemistry, but I believe stepping outside ones comfort box is what stops
people. (Why do I feel like some women run home immediately after meeting a guy
and dig their list off to see if they can check everything off, does that sound
crazy?)
If you just let go,
God will bless you with someone that fulfills more than just that checklist. It
will be more than you could have dreamed of. It’s about being with someone that
when you get old and wrinkly and can’t get it on anymore you have someone that
will hold your hand and talk to you. Don’t get caught up in the hype of he has
to look like this, make this much money, he has to be this tall (cause I’m not
dating someone shorter than I). Stop getting caught up in all of that, the questions
that should be asked are is he a gentleman? Is he sensitive? Does he make me
laugh? (You have no idea how important laughter is in a relationship) Is this
man my friend? Does this man love God? Those are important things.
Brandon was my unexpected blessing. I didn’t have a physical
list, but I had a mental one and my husband has exceeded anything that I could
have ever imagined. I think the reason I didn’t view him as a mate before was
because he was my best friend and I didn’t look at him like that. This was the
man who knew the flattering and the not so flattering things about me. I didn’t
realize that God had been in our relationship since day one. He knew I was
going to be the hard headed one too, but he never gave up on me. Even though I
made mistakes he still blessed me with my husband.
When you have important questions go to GOD, cause your girlfriends who are "counseling" you can mess you all up (another blog, another day). Love, live, date, laugh and pray, but most of all trust that
God has your back, have faith that God got you. I’m not talking about that
genie in the bottle praying; I want this, this and this but that prayer that
comes from your soul (deep down from your insides). Just have a conversation
with God and see what he’ll share with you.
Any comments? Do you agree or disagree?
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